Social Media Star of the Week: Saloni Chopra – brunch feature
This International Men’s Day, actor and author Saloni Chopra posted a shirtless picture of herself, albeit fairly covered, along with snippets of the cringe-worthy threats she got as comments from random men. The slideshow ended with a picture of a shirtless man who had zero negative comments, clearly showing the misogyny that exists even in a ‘woke’ world.
Saloni had come across a bunch of nasty comments the night before and had given in to an annoyance that had been bubbling for months. “Milind Soman got praised for his birthday suit sprint. No one called him a whore or slut. Why can’t the same attitude be extended to women?” she questions.
These cringe-worthy comments are more visible in India than elsewhere, says the Mumbai resident. “My friends abroad now have a stereotype for Indian men: they won’t even go on a Tinder date with them. Our boys show how upbringing is going wrong!” she exclaims.
“Milind Soman got praised for his birthday suit sprint. No one called him a whore. Why can’t the same attitude be extended to women?” —Saloni Chopra
Where’s the sanskaar?
She also gets reprimanded by sanskaari men who claim she is ‘ruining kids on the Internet via her revealing posts’. “It’s ridiculous. Men feel threatened when they see a woman living life to the fullest.” A low neckline, a bikini and a kurta get the same responses, says the 30-year-old whose upcoming book, Rescued by a Feminist, is full of such unfortunate anecdotes. This is just the comments section, she clarifies. Her DMs are filled with obnoxious pictures, accompanied by unspeakable threats.
What keeps her sane? Having a reliable support system. She’s seen enough families ask women to make their profile private, boyfriends get mad and friends say ‘don’t put up such pictures’. “Everything begins at home. If our fight was just with the outside world, it wouldn’t be so hard,” she says.
The solution? Raise better men. “You can make women as independent and strong as you want, but the root of the problem isn’t that, is it?”
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From HT Brunch, December 6, 2020
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